Any regular readers of my blog may have read my post OMG Carry on Constipation, about issues we were having with our toddler. I wrote the post back in October 2012, about the trials and tribulations of a toddler with constipation and just how much it affects their behaviour and eating.
We had been prescribed laxatives by the health visitor and at the time I hadn’t wanted to give her them too much as I wasn’t sure if it was going to have any long-term implications. Things seemed to briefly improve but it wasn’t long before we were back to the same old cycle of her holding it in, writhing and rocking on the sofa, refusing to play, complaining she was tired and not eating properly.
We discovered however that if we could get her to stand up for a couple of minutes, she would eventually go as she couldn’t hold it in any longer. Whilst this seemed a quick fix it was soon apparent that it was probably having an even more negative effect as she was so traumatised and upset by it, it seemed to be making her worse so we stopped forcing the situation too much.
I had an appointment with the health visitor in January to discuss in more detail and to hopefully find a solution but with our little girl arriving 5 weeks early I ended up in hospital instead so we had a couple more weeks before we could deal with the issue.
We’ve met with the health visitor a few weeks ago and they prescribed a powder laxative to put in her drinks that not only acts as a laxitive but also helps treat the bowl and get it back into it’s regular routine and condition. However, my daughter only drinks water and immediately sussed there was something in her drink and refused to drink it. My husband persevered in trying to give it to her but I became worried that she was going to stop drinking water completely and I would then have a dehydrated daughter on my hands too so I made him stop and we sought further advice.
The health visitor told us to put it in her milk as she wouldn’t taste it in that. However (yes, another however!) We had stopped putting my daughter’s milk in a bottle to encourage her to drink it from a cup instead, and being the stubborn toddler she is she was, after two weeks, STILL refusing to drink the milk. The health visitor told us to go back to the bottle, which we did, but unbelievably she refuses to drink the milk out of a bottle too now!
At our wits end and having tried the tactics suggested for several days we called the health visitor yet again who came out to see us. She told us we can put the powder in things like soup, yoghurt and custard, or her cereal milk / porridge, so we have been doing this and thank god it has worked! We had also gone back to a basic, syrup laxative when we hadn’t been able to get the powder into her and have been giving her this via a syringe, which she has been taking fine.
After a week or so of the syrup and a couple of days of adding the powder also, we seemed to be getting results and our daughter started going more regularly and without tears or any pain, albeit with the occassional help from us, such as stretching out getting undressed at bed or bath time (meaning she had to stand up) and going for walks / soft play etc. Fabulous, we thought, we are on to a winner!…. or maybe not!
My daughter has the most unbelievable will power! Even with 3 doses of laxative a day she seems to be able to once again hold her bowels! As I write this we have had 2 days without a poo, with my daughter laid on the sofa, staring at the TV, refusing to play, complaining she’s tired and that her tummy hurts, as well as having some great tantrums! You can visibly see her holding it and how uncomfortable she is. We have sat and time and time again explained to her that it is better for her to let herself go when she feels the need than hold it in, we’ve explained that’s why her tummy hurts and that the longer she holds it the worse the pain and the harder it will be to go etc etc. However, being two years old she either doesn’t understand, or doesn’t want to understand or listen!
She cries and demands her nappy is changed when she has gone, so obviously doesn’t like the feel of it in her nappy, however she flatly refuses to use a potty or toilet and gets hysterical. It’s becoming apparent that she is actually getting a phobia of poo as she has started getting upset when we change her sister’s nappy (which being that of a newborn is constantly of a brown variety!)
All we can do at present is persevere with the laxatives and keep trying to encourage her, but I am at my wits end and dreading hubby going back to work in the next week or two as it is a long, long day when she is like this and factor in a newborn to the equasion I feel I may be climbing the walls! lol!
Has anybody else experienced this? Any advice or suggestions would be hugely welcome!