What would you do if you were invited on to the show ROOM 101 for the night? Have you ever tried to narrow down what you’d like to throw in there?
Well now you can, the lovely Mummy’s Cheeky Monkey has tagged me in a new linky set up by Never Bored Of Bubbles To take part all I have to do is write my own ‘Mums 101′ post, list my top three gripes/bugbears relating to motherhood, tag some friends and link up over on Emily’s page.
So here goes, my top three gripes, they may be a bit controversial but isn’t that the point of 101?:
1.) The competitive mum
The mum who always has to be better than every mum, the mum who is always boasting about their little cherub or knows everything there is to know. This mum is full of advice, the font of all knowledge and is totally unimpressed with anyone elses achievements. She never congratulates or praises other children or their mothers, but always has to be one step better and have an even better story to tell.
Don’t get me wrong I am all for sharing our excitement of our little one’s achievements and sharing advice and experience, that’s what us mums do best, We all have an ability to boast or know the perfect solution to something, we are a support network for one another and have been for hundreds of years. However I do think there’s a line to be drawn in a face to face social setting before boredom and sheer annoyance creep in!
2.) Miserable healthcare professionals
People surely go into healthcare, with one end goal, to help people? It’s a caring profession and therefore requires a caring and nurturing attitude surely? I am pleased to say that on the whole my experience of healthcare professionals has on the whole been good.
However I have come across one or two ‘healthcarezilla’s, who frankly I am quite sure may well have ended up in the wrong profession! Miserable, snappy and rude. It is as if you are inconveniencing them in some way for daring to require their ‘care’. How dare you press the red buzzer by your bed for assistance or why call me to ask advice do you think I’m an expert?
My sister and her husband recently had an experience of a ‘healthcarezilla’ and I have to say I am glad I wasn’t there to experience her attitude myself as I don’t think I could have kept my thoughts to myself.
My advice to such people… you went into a caring profession, put a smile on your face, do your job and serve the people who need you well, otherwise find another profession where a caring attitude isn’t essential!
3.) The ongoing struggle for a work/life balance
So you have a child, expand your family and bring to the world a new generation. It’s an amazing experience but one that seems to pose a whole new set of challenges for you as a parent.
In the current economic climate a large section of the population are struggling to keep afloat, families are struggling with the increase in fuel and food bills and some are struggling to put meals on the table for the family, others are managing to get by but at a cost.
Once you have had a child most are faced with additional challenges and costs of childcare. It’s a double-edged sword, you often need to go back to work to help pay the bills but by doing so you often end up spending most of your salary on childcare (which contradicts the reason you were going to work in the first place, to bring money in). Unless that is you are lucky enough to have family who can share in the responsibility of the childcare with you. Even if you have managed to sort that, there’s still the issue of working hours and flexibility. Whilst technically speaking you are meant to have rights as a working parent, in all honesty the likelihood is that the day-to-day reality is much different.
When my mum had me women didn’t have to necessarily go out to work and often remained as stay at home mums, at least until children were of school age, and even then jobs and working hours were more flexible to enable mum’s to do the school run and fit work around their life as a mum. God how I would long for it to be like that again!
These days, in the current climate many women have to work and flexible part-time jobs during normal 9-5 working hours are a lot harder to find. Shift work, which often comes up is hard as it means having to have childcare out of normal working hours, it’s all a juggling act and frankly one that’s a bit pants for not only mums but parents on the whole as it can also affect the quality time they get to spend with their children.
I can’t see things getting any better in the forseeable future and I truly believe this situation will mean many mums continue to take a new approach… all hail the mumpreneur! Credit to these ladies for doing their own thing and hopefully as a result getting their work-life balance right.
Dolly Daydream of Sex, drugs, rocker and stroller baby
Emma of Me the man and the baby
Kerry of Multiple Mummy
Mrs Jones of Keeping up with the joneses
- Majority of British mums feel guilty about going out to work and not spending enough time with their children (dailymail.co.uk)